I wish I had been writing short little post all along, because now I really have no idea where to begin.
This has been so very, very, very hard. Yet in many ways it has been so very liberating. Liberating because I feel I am being unburdened by so many things that I do not need. How did I get so much stuff? When I met my husband I lived in a studio apartment. Where did it all come from? And truthfully, for just me, I had too much stuff then! Getting rid of all of this clutter is freeing. I keep thinking, for the past few years I have lived without even thinking about this stuff why do I need to have it around me now? There are some sentimental things I’m having a hard time parting with, and I’m holding on to some of those. I think I’ll have a second ‘cleansing’ later.
Then there have been so many other very hard parts.
Physically. Physically, I just couldn’t do as much as I wanted. As much as I felt I needed to do. I got so sick. All the dust and stress, and just everything caused me to have major symptoms. My breathing. I had the hardest time breathing on many days. Twice while I was sorting through things I realized I was confused, once I was giddy, I got up and couldn’t walk straight. I got out of the room and each time Stuart saw me and helped me to the couch. Then I started coughing. I’d cough up a lot of mucus and need my inhaler and a nebulizer treatment. I was not getting enough oxygen. I wasn’t wheezing yet, so I didn’t even realize it, but my lungs were filling up with mucus. This whole situation, has really opened my eyes as to just how little I understand about my lung issues. I’ve had to cancel many appointments with my lung doctor because of vertigo, and now my doctor is finishing her residency with Duke so I would be seeing a new doctor, so I’m going to start looking for a new doctor in Charlotte as soon as hubby’s new insurance kicks in. I’ll post more on that when I see the new doctor, I don’t want to say more about it until I get more information. For now I’ll say, I’m keeping a closer eye on how I’m feeling, how I’m breathing, and how it’s all going together.
The breathing difficulties made it very hard for me to help as much as I felt I needed to. Yes, I do mean needed to, because no one else could say if my stuff was to go to the new place or not. And we did not have the luxury of just packing it all and deciding what to keep later. We are moving from a 2300 sq ft home to a 700 sq ft home. Things had to be trimmed! So I tried wearing a mask, it worked somewhat, but it made me less air flow, this made me feel like I couldn’t breathe….maybe I’m a bit claustrophobic? Maybe a little, but I wear that mask out all the time with no problem, but I’m not exerting myself. I guess that’s what was making it difficult, or perhaps I was just already so irritated.
Then the headaches were getting bad. Maybe because of the breathing issues, maybe because of the stress, maybe because of all of the above….or the weather, or ……my head was / is hurting.
I was having more vertigo.
The last 5 days at the house I spent most of 4 of them in bed. Talk about GUILT! However, I got a lot done from the bed. Stuart would bring me things to go through in bed. Not sure that really helped me much physically, but mentally it helped.
I have not been doing well with my Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction studies. I think if I had been doing them longer I would have been able to deal with this better, but nope, I didn’t deal well. Kind of went right out of my brain. I’d try every now and then….and then I’d just look around at my completely torn up house and think….how on earth are we going to do this? and FREAK OUT!
Well, things got done, as much as they could.
Movers came today…..Oh that’s a story. The relocation movers. Couldn’t come until today, the 17th. Are giving us a FOUR DAY WINDOW to deliver. That means delivery could happen on the 21st! That’s the day Stuart was supposed to start work! Ummm…..this is the relocation company that Stuart’s company uses. So, luckily his boss is very understanding and he is going to start work on the 28th. Phew!
Can I just say, moving under the best of circumstances is not easy.
Downsizing like we are makes it more difficult…..even if you want to do it.
Having very little to no help makes it extremely difficult!
Having a chronic illness on top of all of that can make it pure hell.
My saving grace, as always, having a spouse who is willing to go that extra mile to make it as comfortable for me as possible.
That’s why, today is moving day….and I’m sitting in a hotel room with Max the many toed cat. We didn’t need a freaked out cat there while the movers were doing their thing, and I didn’t need to be there with more breathing irritants and getting more stressed. (ahhh…deeeeeep breath!!!!)
I’ve been a bit scared that this whole thing is going to make me go back a bit….meaning, I’m going to end up back having daily migraines, tinnitus, pain, vertigo… Not being able to do much at all. I have been doing so much better. suddenly, I have been really scared…..
Then I thought. That’s tomorrow. I have no control over tomorrow. My worry isn’t going to change it. I can only continue to do what I know to do, and if I feel good, great, if I don’t, I’ll reevaluate. I’ll just live in the moment. That’s all I have. And right now, this moment is pretty good.
Hubby should be here soon. Max is dreaming kitty dreams. I see kudzu taking over the fence outside my window. It’s a normal day in “The South”.